Practicing Bondage and Sadomasochism (BDSM) is becoming more and more prominent in society. It is common in people wanting to spice up their love life with a spouse or partner, or people who are aroused by power, either having or not having it. While BDSM is a great tool to have in your sexual toolbox, you must be aware of the dangers to maintain a safe environment. This article will specifically talk about using gags safely.
Typically, the submissive is the one who wears the gag, either to surrender power or be humiliated, and the dominant is the one who administers the gag. There are many different types of gags. The three main categories gags fall into are: over-the-mouth gags, in-the-mouth gags and mouth opening gags. While these types are very different, there are some common usage rules that apply to all three. First, the submissive needs some sort of “safeword” to communicate with the dominant. The use of a “safeword” is absolutely necessary due to the high risk of suffocation. If at anytime the submissive needs the gag removed they would use the “safeword.” This can be tricky while using a gag because normally the submissive is unable to make coherent speech, with the slight exception of some open mouth gags. Since this can be a problem, a submissive may use a specific pattern of grunting, or a “safeword gesture,” such as holding up the boy scout sign.
Another general rule of using gags is to always be aware of the submissive’s conditions. If the submissive is prone to allergies, asthma attacks, or even has a cold, it would be best advised to not use a gag of any kind. Also, if the submissive has a bad gag reflex and is likely to throw up, most in mouth gags should be avoided to ensure that the submissive’s airway does not become blocked. It should also be noted when using in-mouth gags and over-the-mouth gags, the only open airway to the submissive is the submissive’s nose. The dominant should always be wary to not block the nasal passage in any way.
Lastly, although the dominant is in control, the submissive should have predetermined guidelines set; these guidelines are usually called hard limits. For example, some submissives may be okay with a ring gag, a gag that holds your mouth open, usually to allow a male to engage in oral sex with the submissive, while others may not. There are a lot of gags you can choose from and it is all a matter of preference.
Just remember that BDSM is supposed to be an enjoyable experience for both parties. Sit down with your partner and discuss which gags are okay to be used, what your “safeword” or “safeword gesture” is, and have fun with consensual and safe BDSM play.